My husband and I took Shared Parental Leave with our first child in 2021. We chose to take leave at the same time, so we spent the first 8 weeks of our son's life together, after which I continued with maternity leave, returning to work when our son was 7 months old. Taking Shared Parental Leave has had so many unexpected benefits. We anticipated that it would make things easier to have both of us around at the beginning, especially as we were first time parents, and in circumstances where we knew upfront that I would have long recovery. However, what we didn't know was how much it would benefit my husband's relationship with our son and also our communication with regards to parenting. Working in the same profession and having similar ambitions, it has been important to us to try and create an equal division of labour when it comes to family life. Taking Shared Parental Leave meant that my husband knew and continues to know how to care for our son just as well as I do, but also that our son is happy to seek comfort from either of us, so since being back at work the responsibility to get up in the middle of the night or drop everything when childcare goes wrong, falls equally between us. It worked so well that when our second is due later this year, we will take Shared Parental Leave again, with my husband using 12 weeks this time.
